Confidence is something I’ve struggled with and worked on my entire life.
I’ve always been amazed at how some people seem to be naturally confident while others keep themselves small. Independent of any objective factors.
I’ve talked about it before, how confidence seems to be predetermined to up to 50% by our genes.
But as it is also a skill, and as our genes & brains can be altered, it can be learned. Yay!!
I’ve come to realize that in order to develop your confidence, you need to look at the following four areas:
1. Knowing what you want & standing up for that.
I’ve had some painful experiences of following other people’s advice for “what’s best for me.” It was one of the lowest times in terms of confidence in my life.
2. Your thoughts.
Being mindful of and consistently working on your thoughts and your inner dialogue.
3. Your actions.
Taking action, stepping out of your comfort zone, and getting yourself to do things and show up for yourself, even when you don’t feel like doing them.
4. Your environment.
You can do all of the above and still not get very far without a supportive environment.
Today, I would like to talk about your thoughts and inner dialogue.
Why is changing your thoughts so important when you want to become more confident?
For introverts or shy people, this can look like the following:
But what can you start doing instead?
⇢ Tell yourself that you can do this.
⇢ Ask yourself how you can do this.
⇢ Ask yourself why you want this.
Your brain will always look for evidence for the things you tell it and for the answers to the questions you ask.
Beware and ask better questions!
⭐︎ You can use this concept in any area of your life & it works wonders.